January 29, 2016
Femininity. Is it softness? Is it strength? The size of your breasts? The length of your skirt? Whether you even wear a skirt at all? Is it pink? Is it flowery? We are pressured by societal definitions and imagery to feel that we fail at being feminine if we deviate from what we see in a magazine, the big screen or even on other women on the street. I have grappled with these questions long before this week. I have always preferred sneakers over heels, jeans over skirts and lip balm over lipstick.
Getting ready for a blind date last year I wondered what I should wear. Am I more desirable in a dress? Something more girlie? After changing more than a few times, I ended up in my favorite white t-shirt, jeans and sneakers. I felt like myself. I felt comfortable. I felt like a woman.
Femininity is a feeling. It is strength and courage and a clear sense of self. It is love and it is truth. It is not about the size of your chest, how much leg you have showing or having long, flowy hair. It is about opening yourself up to being vulnerable enough to show who you are on the inside when you know that it's easier for everyone to judge you by the outside.